You know how you have those life lessons, that you know you know, but sometimes you need to be reminded again? Yeah, me neither.
Except, ok, I lied. I definitely need reminders. I have been on a journey of re-finding myself, post-burnout, post(ish)-Long COVID. Honestly at this point, I can’t tell if some of the symptoms that started with long covid have just morphed into peri-menopause, lucky me.
Anyway, back to the lesson. Or rather what I’ve been re-learning again recently. I’ve heard it called the law of attraction, or whatever you put into the universe you get back. I’m not sure exactly how to quantify the phenomenon, but I have experienced it, and recently I’ve been reminded by following my bliss, doing things I enjoy, I’m attracting more people who are showing up in the world this way as well. It’s wonderful.
I mentioned to one of my coaching clients recently that I’ve realized my coaching clients are all very similar to me. High performing, driven women, in various stages of asserting boundaries and recovering as people-pleasers. Now, sure, so that could essentially explain a large population of the female workforce, and yet, that’s who keeps finding me, and asking for coaching. It’s so cool. I love it. I feel equipped to hold space effectively, ask the right questions and when appropriate share insights or learnings I’ve had.
Obvious, right?
Yes, and no. I get busy, I forget, I start doubling myself and thinking that I ‘should’ be something else, or I ‘could’ do it that way - and I end up derailing my own momentum trying to be someone that I think others want me to be.
Even when I see this written out, I laugh, it’s so obvious to me, and yet I still fall into the trap. Socialization is an influential part of all of us, but the less I try to fit in the more I find my people. Remember that.
xo D
Absolutely love the last line, and I will try my hardest to remember that!